“Would you tell your friends and family you’re into BDSM?
For most, the reflexive answer’s an immediate no.
But practicing BDSM in my personal life and as a professional dominatrix has taught me that there are some situations where telling makes sense…”
“I was definitely at the right address. Tara Indiana, a professional dominatrix, emailed it to me earlier that day. Yet all I could see was the back entrance to a Japanese restaurant and some kitchen workers on their smoke break…”
“In 2011, my life felt like a disaster. I was a holistic practitioner, but I lost my award-winning wellness practice in the wake of the Great Recession. I was 55, with no prospects, no financial savings, no family members who would help, and friends who seemed to vanish into thin air…”
“Lilah Pace is a pseudonym for a New York Times-bestselling author, who has lived everywhere from Italy to the United Kingdom before putting down roots in the American South. She recently ventured into the erotica market with her debut novel, Asking For It and the follow up, Begging For It…”
“Before I met a real life financial dominatrix, I was pretty clueless about the ins and outs of fin dom. From what I saw online, it looked like you could just sit at a laptop, talk shit to men over the internet, and get paid. It came off like sex work that didn’t require you to have sex or work…”
“It seems like BDSM has hit the mainstream these days. Everybody and their mom is reading 50 Shades of Grey or listening to Dan Savage and then swinging by the hardware store for some solid-braid nylon rope to twist around their loved ones…”
“In New York City’s Lower East Side, there’s a dungeon with whips, swords, and a slave in chains where Conrad, a male dominatrix, carries out his work at his clients’ request. On Working this week, Arun Venugopal talks to Conrad about the impact the RentBoy bust had on his profession, one of the best places to meet clientele, and some safety concerns in the industry…”
“Sadomasochism has never looked more cheerful than it does in ‘Moving on From Vanilla: A Light Intro to BDSM,’ an animation created by Lessa Millet and Kaye Blegvad, and originally featured on Karley Sciortino’s sex and relationship blog Slutever…”
“Whenever we hear ‘sex education,’ most people imagine a high school health class teacher outlining the basics: monthly periods, the human development cycle, birth control, and maybe an uncomfortable informational film. However, the topics in these classes barely skim the surface of the depth and breadth of our human sexuality…”
“Each year since 1984, kinky leather clad folks descend upon San Francisco’s SoMa district in celebration of BDSM culture, and more generally, the freedom of sexual expression. People from all walks of kinkiness were there this year, strutting their stuff, tugging their stuff, or selling some stuff (Folsom Street Fair has many vendors, selling everything from t-shirts with sexual innuendos to heart shaped paddles)…”